What’s the Talk All About

I am currently working with a female triathlete who is dealing with several challenging issues, but the most difficult issue for this athlete, as is true for many athletes, has been her negative self talk. Negative self talk is all the negative things you say to yourself, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you say to others about your performance.

Awareness

The first step in this situation is to develop awareness around what the athlete is saying to herself. To do this we decided it might be a good idea for my client to keep a journal of her thoughts so she could become more aware and conscious of how she was talking to herself (about her training and competition) and how those thoughts showed up in her body; how they physically manifested and impacted her performance.

Journaling

My client came back the following week and brought her journal with her. We went through it together. There were numerous negative thoughts going on for this athlete that she was not at all aware of and was actually a bit surprised by. She said she also recognized that these thoughts showed up in her shoulders, arms, stomach and legs. She could see how her negative thoughts were constricting her ability to run freely.

Negative into positive

As we continued to talk I asked her to do an exercise with me. I asked her to make a list of some of the negative thoughts in her journal and we talked through coming up with a list of complimentary, positive thoughts that personally resonated with her. She came up with a list of some very good positive thoughts, but as we talked about the exercise and replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts, she wasn’t sure she could actually do it.

Positive thoughts or cue words

I asked her whether or not she felt she could utilize her list of positive thoughts before, during and after her workout. We agreed she would try it the following week, see how her body responded and whether or not her workouts got any easier. I asked her to keep a journal of what happened during the week and that we would make any necessary adjustments when she returned.

On her return visit, again she brought her journal. She began to talk to me about how difficult it was to change her negative self talk into something more positive. She said she thought it took too much energy and that she couldn’t remember what to say so she just let her thoughts go back to what was familiar; her pattern of negative thinking. I asked what she thought about breaking it down a bit further to make it easier and this is what I suggested: instead of countering entire sentences and phrases and trying to be responsible for remembering them, what if we used one or two motivating words to replace negative thoughts. She asked me what I meant. I explained to her that instead of trying to remember something countering that seemed long what if we came up with positive, motivating cue words that motivated her to think positively. I explained to her that cue words would take her mind away from the negative into something positive but also keep her focused and motivated and feel good about her running. I gave her examples: fast, strong, powerful, light, etc. She thought this might be easier. I suggested that she make a list of positive words that reminded her of a good run or a good runner. She made the list pretty quickly. Next, I asked her to close her eyes, take a couple of circle breaths and listen to me as I slowly read the list. When I was done we talked about how the words made her feel. She said the words made her feel confident, excited and relaxed.

As the weeks have gone on my client has worked on her negative thoughts. She has seen a dramatic difference in her training and in her life. She asked me about the ‘fake it till you make it’ because although she was able to effectively change some of her negative thoughts others where a bit more challenging because changing them didn’t feel authentic. Here is what I said to my client and I’ll extend to you, all situations are positive and negative and it’s how you see situations; it is about perspective.

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Many times athletes, people struggling with weight loss and emotional eaters do not have a conscious differentiation between negative thoughts and positive thoughts. What’s worse is, many times even after developing awareness and realizing that much of their mental focus is negative and how that negative impacts performance, athletes are unable to figure out how to talk to themselves positively. We are fed so much negative information by people around us and the media, that sadly it is becoming imbedded in us to a point of familiarity that is frightening.

I hope that you are having a good week!

Dr. Michelle

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